tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4909136390780332252.post5961144708775328876..comments2023-04-07T11:26:49.311+01:00Comments on journey of the mocha bean(s) and mummy: Mechanics@cosmicgirliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16121996821343321297noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4909136390780332252.post-21566299440755885922010-04-18T12:39:01.012+01:002010-04-18T12:39:01.012+01:00yes, I think he will remember them if you keep doi...yes, I think he will remember them if you keep doing them, if they change he will remember the change.<br />And changing from shut down to a better way of dealing with can only be good.<br />You will need help to do this though - maybe some kind of parenting course...<br />I know my kids are going to remember me as the mum who was always sick, who couldn't always cope, who would run away and cry...but hopefully they will also remember that I read to them, and play with them, and do Mum things too.<br />I don't know how to be a Mum any way other than I am and I can't be.<br />Your reaction seems to be coming out of a massive amount of stress. This is something that can be helped I hope - I wish I knew which services to recommend in the UK, I don't know though...just *hugs* and know that he will remember positive change as much as the not good.aprilhttp://lifeslightlyused.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4909136390780332252.post-70158846151202971612010-04-17T07:35:08.338+01:002010-04-17T07:35:08.338+01:00My instincts say he will remember it. He wont be ...My instincts say he will remember it. He wont be able to read your mind and know the whys and wherefores. Any explanation will only confuse him more. <br /><br />I have no proof or experience to back this up, only my own memories from childhood. My parents were great but i still remember the times when they weren't, you know?<br /><br />It is something I struggle over with my kids. i want to be the sort of mother that they look back on and have happy memories of. Some days I'm sure I'm failing them. <br /><br />It's so hard at the best of times.Not From Laplandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17165208811776097332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4909136390780332252.post-31203669873632070302010-04-16T17:58:23.225+01:002010-04-16T17:58:23.225+01:00I think that yes you should change them and yes th...I think that yes you should change them and yes this is what he will remember or rather that should be that this is what I remeber of my mother. She was like this with me. I suffered as a child and due to the pain I felt and still do, I had to get my depression dealt with.<br /><br />No time for talking, as soon as it effecting the children, then it had to be donw. <br /><br />It hasnt been a walk in the park, but at least I dealt with it before they were old wnough for there memories to be formed.<br /><br />Yes I still can come down hard on them both and there are still days when MadDad pulls me to oneside and tells me to get my act together, but it is better.<br /><br />Was it easy? Hell no, hardest year of my life on the CBT, but I think I am getting there.<br /><br />I am also aware that this post will possibly be so different from many you receive, but he doesnt understand the whys, he just understands the actions.Jen Walshawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07374363403295342745noreply@blogger.com